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In the midst of COVID-19... HOME ISN'T CANCELLED!

Dear people,

The Lord is good always. His Faithfulness is ever true and His mercies are new everyday. I am excited to write today. Why? Because this Covid thing has been everywhere since months ago but it just dawned on me to write today about some benefits and lessons we may gain from this crisis. 

First of all, It brings us the opportunity to spend time with family. I am talking quality time. Now you have no choice but to stay home with the woman who annoys you to the brim. Haha. Neither do you have a choice but to do the wifely/motherly duties to those ingrates of  a husband and children you have. They never say thanks to you. Meanwhile you have to get the home running. HAHAHAAAA!

Oh Covid! We have no choice but to co-operate somehow and make this stay home period enjoyable and a happy one. After all, if you don't enjoy each others company now, you will regret it soon. Loneliness leads to negativity. Negativity leads to sin. For your own sanity, be happy and live in peace with everyone. Now that its even difficult to meet up with neighbours, phone calls, text messages and video calls are your sure bet to staying intouch with other people. 

As a couple, try having your usual date nights. Try texting each other from the other room, its fun and adds spice to the marriage. Seeing the same face, body and clothes for a longer period can be boring sometimes, be creative in making seeing each other fun. Watch movies together, dance together, play with the kids, run around with them. Do exercises and stretches together, Play games on the bedroom floor, cook together etc.

Some mothers and wives may tend to be frustrated soon because of the workload they have now in catering for the family. Expecting your husband to help you clean up after the kids, or after a meal... Well, it can be heartbreaking when he is stuck up in front of his computer all day everyday that he is working; without helping you do your chores... Did he forget you may also be working full time?... It can be overwhelming. But continue to think of the positives, the joy those kids will bring to your heart, the love you have for them, the reason you chose to serve your family. And don't forget the blessings you receive daily because of your service and dedication to your family.

Fathers and husbands, remember that you have been instructed by God to love. Because He knew loving genuinely was difficult for you. You may be stressed already from working full time from home, some of you are even wondering how to make ends meet because you depend on daily income and now that seems a little impossible.  Your nature as men is to be able to provide for your family, and if there is anything that comes across as irresponsible, or if there is any difficulty in providing those family needs, it brings stress. The first reciepient of these frustrations is your wife. 
Try to calm down, communicate with your wife, be open. Its ok for your wife to see you vulnerable.

Most importantly, obey God by showing love. Lift those burdens to God and have a free heart and mind to enjoy each other during this season. Remember you are a perfect pair for this season and every day as well. You two are the perfect pair. 

Come to think of the benefit of having time to do other things for those who are not mandated to work full time from home. Countless huh! Perfect time to read that book, or start that diet you always wanted to do but never had time to prepare it. Perfect time to start that online course, or better still learn that recipe. 

In short, learn more this period, dance more, laugh more, be happy. Get closer to God. Talk to Him more, show love, experience love and be hopeful that this too shall pass.


                                     Romans 8:28

                                    And we know that in all things God works for the good
                             of those who love him, 
                     who have been called according to his purpose.

I would still emphasize our dumfonno challenge. Staying home doesnt mean staying glued to social media and your phone! Put that phone off and talk to your partner or play with your children. Put that phone off and lie down quietly and meditate. Put that phone off and pick your Bible to read the word of God. Put that phone off.

#dumfonno challenge.   #Fixit      #CFC        #Marriage the right way      #Married for life
Written by Rev Mrs Caroline Dzifa Fumey


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