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Salut! Like I said in one my articles, I still believe trust is earned. My husband believes its a free gift of sacrifice. I believe your question now to me is , ''how are you guys coping?'' or ''are you guys not agreeing as a couple?''  Well, we agree as a couple, and we are coping with the word of God which is To trust in all situations. He knows I expect his behavior to make it easy for me to trust him, He accepts that without criticism. I know he professes to trust me anyways ,that does not mean I abuse that opportunity. That comes to clarify that, when I see actions that do not allow me to trust easily, I go to God in prayer for clarification especially when it has to do with my marriage. Let me share another real story with you. Mr Cobby felt his wife was too perfect to be trusted. Perfect people do not exist, so why is his wife pretending to be perfect. She is sneaky, he thought. So they got separated living in different countries. During that

Buenos Dias a todos, I use to think that all problems in marriages stemed from a big breach of trust or a massive tragedy. Yea, some marriages collapse because of these but sometimes by something we often take for granted. The lack of love in a marriage sometimes isn't because of  a onetime sin but due to a continous behaviour pattern which is why I titled todays write up as 'the cable company'. Have you noticed how cable companies treat their customers with amazing care and attentiveness when their first trying to seal a deal? But once they have you, the introductory rates are replaced with neck breaking ones and the customer care takes a nose dive... When we were lucky enough to afford a cable tv for the first time, within a matter of five hours after our first call to GOtv (those from West Africa would probably know this), we had everything fixed and working. Then the rates started going up and up till we decided we wouldn't use it anymore and the cu

Welcome Dear Readers, I started a story from 2nd February publishing ''THERE'S ALWAYS A MOMENT''. I mentioned meeting a beautiful man who became an adviser, friend, boyfriend and platonic friend again for three years. Well that man is my husband as I type this. He still is my adviser and friend. In fact if you go through the archived posts of this blog, you will see the story about our wedding. It has not all been rosy, we have crossed mountains and overcame hurdles. We have almost divorced twice and I cannot vouch for tomorrow  either because, well nobody knows tomorrow: But one thing I can vouch for is the plan of God for each of us. He says in Jeremiah 29:11,''FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU; PLANS FOR WELFARE AND NOT FOR CALAMITY AND TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE AND A  HOPE''. We marry for better and for worse. You get married promising to love each other in all situations. Today we are on a 'discussion walk'. I will give situations an

Welcome dear Readers, You must be thinking that I want to talk about sex today. But hey, we will be talking about that plus a lot more. True intimacy requires what happens in the bedroom plus a lot more. In the beginning, God created Adam and Eve, the first couple. They lived in an ideal world; no debt, no no crazy in laws, no baggage, no stress, no fighting and and also, NO CLOTHING! (Gen 2:25) When God reveals unto us a naked marriage, He is revealing to us something more than just walking around the house with no clothes on or just sex. He is revealing the importance of TRANSPARENCY, VULNERABILITY,ACCEPTANCE and INTIMACY at every level of the relationship. I am suggesting we become more intentional about working on our relationships this way. Love is honest. Love is trust. You open yourself to temptations when you decide not to live in a naked marriage. These temptations have led many down the path of doom. My husband used to believe trust in a marriage is a sacrifice. T

Bonjour a tous, Happy valentines to us all. Today, I wouldn't take much of your time because I encourage you all to spend more time together with your spouses.  Lets us think of some beautiful quotations from the Bible that teaches us about love and most important, God's love for us. Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life. Psalm 143:8 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:14   Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man. Proverbs 3:3-4   And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 1 John 4:16 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2

Buenos Dias a todo, Today's title is just random. Forgive me if it sounds like a poem but as I write this I am listening to this song which I love so much and that's the title. A heads up to my dear readers;its purely west African music with what we call ''PIDGIN ENGLISH''. It may be a little difficult for some to understand. I am posting the link here for us all to enjoy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-SHnrY8ifc http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrwvr5DlEUM So its Valentine's day tomorrow!!! I don't want to sound so negative but I think this is the first valentine I am spending and I have so much joy within me about my marriage and my husband. I remember the numerous times I gave my husband gifts and he didn't even wear them or use them. And I remember expecting some particular gifts and I either got none or something else. Huh! What stress we put ourselves through! Every time I got disappointed by not receiving what I wanted, the more I b

Bonjour a tous, We have discussed conciously making up our minds to work on our marriages or relationships.  We have learnt to go to God in difficult situations, we have decided divorce is not an option. Does that mean we give a green pass to our spouse to be unfaithful to us?  Or for our spouses to neglect the core values of spicing up the marriage and keeping it enjoyable.  Marriage is about consisently doing life together. what do we do in our daily lives.  Lets remind ourselves; sleep, wake up, prepare breakfast, eat, take a shower, wash dishes, go to work, attend to peoples needs, come back home, have dinner, take another bath, sleep! Oh I think I left out prayer! And if you have kids under ten(not in all cases), helping them take a bath and getting ready for school and bed.  And making sure they are fed. On weekends its a whole new plan which may include more or less activities.  Can we think of not hurting our spouses or keeping them happy throughout all these a

Buenos Dias My Cherished Readers! Today we share a love story. OH I love 'love' and love stories. This can be called a testimony. The couple in today's feature are friends we met a little over a year ago in Dhaka. The 'groom', such a gentleman. I knew right from the start he was a good steward of what God gives him because he took great care of my husband while I was in Ecuador. We spoke on phone most times before I finally met him and his beautiful wife in person. Let me not bore you with my lengthy introduction, Lets go straight to his handwriting ; " Valentine's Day উপলক্ষে এলসন Love Bar নিয়ে এলো “Elson Love Contest” এর পঞ্চম Elson Featured গল্প। আসুন শুনে নেই মেহেদির মুখে! "I think it’s important to find yourself a partner who looks at you the way all South Asians look at “Kacchi’r Aluu”. My wife thinks the world of me and it sometimes gets hard to live up to that potential but we both get “A” for effort though. I think we do make a power co

 Welcome Dear Readers, Have you ever heard someone say ,"I am still with you, ain't I?"  "If i didn't love you, I would not be with you". Or better still, "No one marries his or her enemy."  Well all these statements can be true but when it becomes an anthem , then whoever is singing it, is in fact missing something. Making a relationship work takes effort. Effort I describe as conscious. You decide with your heart, mind and energy,physical energy to work your relationship towards success. If you are married,with kids, it as well become double Effort. Years back, I would constantly nag my husband of not loving me because he paid more attention to people outside our home. His favorite line in response to me was, "Did I marry them? Am I not with you?" You may be laughing now thinking this man... But this statement would pierce my heart to the core. I would cry my eyes out and sometimes even refuse to eat. I recently learnt to pray

Bonjo ur tout le monde, I just want to say thank you. For the support, for actually visiting this page to read what we posted here.  Again, even though we have been off for three days, you still visited this blog every single day. The feedback we received almost brought me to tears each time. I am grateful to each one of you. Thank you all so much. Lets continue to build our homes and marriages.                                                            1 Peter 4:8             "Most important of all, continue to show                    deep love for each other,               for love covers a multitude of sins" #CFC  - Couples for Christ #fixit BY: REV. AND MRS FUMEY

Dear one, Welcome to an important and difficult discussion today: FORGIVENESS.  I will go straight to the point and not beat about the bush. As humans its very normal to do something someone might feel hurt about. Countless times have my husband and I quarreled over things that were basically not a big deal. There have been times we said awful things to each other. Trust me, there have been such countless, horrible, indescribable moments. After about four years in marriage, I thought I needed to talk some sense into my husband. I felt i was the only one running the marriage and our lives, Apart from him, I had two other boys to deal with. I was frustrated and I thought i was right to think that way. I resented him. On the day of confrontation, I went overboard: I yelled, called him names and even slapped him. Little did i know that i was actually worsening our case. I t opened wounds that lasted years after that, It took the Immense Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ to forgive ea

JUST AS I AM,YOUNG AND FREE...TO BE THE BEST THAT I CAN BE... My young heart burst with a longing to serve the Lord GENUINELY ,  that night, as sat on my bathroom floor in my new house,somewhere in Asia. I was flooded with His joy and the knowledge of His love for me personally.  I begun to think back, how my life had begun as a young child in a school run by soldiers: as a soldier himself, my dad was full of hope for my bright future. I was sent to one of the best Secondary schools in Ghana, West Africa. I graduated with good grades and had admission into two prominent universities in Ghana. Now the twist, my parents refused to send me to either of those universities because,well they couldn't afford it. (Later on, we will find out the genuine reasons why) I ended up in the teachers training college where I was trained to become a professional teacher. Before entering the college, I had met a beautiful man.. He was playing the role of adviser and friend at this time. Then m