Welcome dear Readers,
You must be thinking that I want to talk about sex today. But hey, we will be talking about that plus a lot more. True intimacy requires what happens in the bedroom plus a lot more.
In the beginning, God created Adam and Eve, the first couple. They lived in an ideal world; no debt, no no crazy in laws, no baggage, no stress, no fighting and and also, NO CLOTHING! (Gen 2:25)
When God reveals unto us a naked marriage, He is revealing to us something more than just walking around the house with no clothes on or just sex.
He is revealing the importance of TRANSPARENCY, VULNERABILITY,ACCEPTANCE and INTIMACY at every level of the relationship. I am suggesting we become more intentional about working on our relationships this way.
Love is honest. Love is trust. You open yourself to temptations when you decide not to live in a naked marriage. These temptations have led many down the path of doom. My husband used to believe trust in a marriage is a sacrifice. That he chooses to trust me because he wanted to and not because i earned it. I on the other hand believe and still do that trust is earned. It doesn't mean that I wait for actions before I trust, it simply means being transparent in your actions makes it easier to trust you.
Some couples don't even have a mutual friend, yet they have friends. Some couples cannot answer each others phone calls because according to them cell phones are private. Come to talk of going through each others messages, that is a taboo.
I met a widow who narrated her story to me. They got married in a church. She obeyed her husband and submitted duly to him. She stayed away from his privacy because according to her, "the less you know, the better." They had four children together. She was carrying her fifth child when the husband had a motor accident. He had had the accident with another lady whiles they were driving from a club to the ladies house at dawn. The lady survived with severe injuries. After his death, The widow now got his phone, obviously, came to find out, he had a child with this lady and had married her too. In the end, she had to hand over her husbands properties to the injured lady according to the Law of their country(The injured lady is rendered incapable to work and is legally married to the dead man so the left over wealth is used to take care of her).
The widow had to start her life all over again, with five children.
She could have asked God to intervene if she knew her husband was going astray.
Some people get lucky early enough to save themselves and their families before the doom of secrecy lands on them.
If you are wondering how you can restore openness/ transparency into your relationship: first ask God to help you. Ask for His Grace to strengthen you. Surround yourself with people who share your view and can encourage you. Also set some boundaries to your relationship. We will talk more about setting boundaries in another write up.
Let honesty and forgiveness flow freely in your marriages and relationship. You will be amazed how you will get through challenges that come your way easily.
Thanks to all those who participated in the BIG LIE IN ROMANTIC READING CHALLENGE.
We get to start a new challenge tomorrow.
Save that marriage!
#FIXIT
Couples For Christ(CFC)
The Mawuli International Mission Assignment For Christ.
Written by: Rev Mrs Caroline Dzifa Fumey
You must be thinking that I want to talk about sex today. But hey, we will be talking about that plus a lot more. True intimacy requires what happens in the bedroom plus a lot more.
In the beginning, God created Adam and Eve, the first couple. They lived in an ideal world; no debt, no no crazy in laws, no baggage, no stress, no fighting and and also, NO CLOTHING! (Gen 2:25)
When God reveals unto us a naked marriage, He is revealing to us something more than just walking around the house with no clothes on or just sex.
He is revealing the importance of TRANSPARENCY, VULNERABILITY,ACCEPTANCE and INTIMACY at every level of the relationship. I am suggesting we become more intentional about working on our relationships this way.
Love is honest. Love is trust. You open yourself to temptations when you decide not to live in a naked marriage. These temptations have led many down the path of doom. My husband used to believe trust in a marriage is a sacrifice. That he chooses to trust me because he wanted to and not because i earned it. I on the other hand believe and still do that trust is earned. It doesn't mean that I wait for actions before I trust, it simply means being transparent in your actions makes it easier to trust you.
Some couples don't even have a mutual friend, yet they have friends. Some couples cannot answer each others phone calls because according to them cell phones are private. Come to talk of going through each others messages, that is a taboo.
I met a widow who narrated her story to me. They got married in a church. She obeyed her husband and submitted duly to him. She stayed away from his privacy because according to her, "the less you know, the better." They had four children together. She was carrying her fifth child when the husband had a motor accident. He had had the accident with another lady whiles they were driving from a club to the ladies house at dawn. The lady survived with severe injuries. After his death, The widow now got his phone, obviously, came to find out, he had a child with this lady and had married her too. In the end, she had to hand over her husbands properties to the injured lady according to the Law of their country(The injured lady is rendered incapable to work and is legally married to the dead man so the left over wealth is used to take care of her).
The widow had to start her life all over again, with five children.
She could have asked God to intervene if she knew her husband was going astray.
Some people get lucky early enough to save themselves and their families before the doom of secrecy lands on them.
If you are wondering how you can restore openness/ transparency into your relationship: first ask God to help you. Ask for His Grace to strengthen you. Surround yourself with people who share your view and can encourage you. Also set some boundaries to your relationship. We will talk more about setting boundaries in another write up.
Let honesty and forgiveness flow freely in your marriages and relationship. You will be amazed how you will get through challenges that come your way easily.
Thanks to all those who participated in the BIG LIE IN ROMANTIC READING CHALLENGE.
We get to start a new challenge tomorrow.
Save that marriage!
#FIXIT
Couples For Christ(CFC)
The Mawuli International Mission Assignment For Christ.
Written by: Rev Mrs Caroline Dzifa Fumey
Very brilliant my sister; This man is very wicked oo. How will this widow survive with her 5 children if God does not come in. transparency in marriage is the best. God bless you oooo my sister.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much. I appreciate you too
DeleteTrust is truly earned. Good one
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