Welcome Dear Readers,
I started a story from 2nd February publishing ''THERE'S ALWAYS A MOMENT''. I mentioned meeting a beautiful man who became an adviser, friend, boyfriend and platonic friend again for three years. Well that man is my husband as I type this. He still is my adviser and friend. In fact if you go through the archived posts of this blog, you will see the story about our wedding. It has not all been rosy, we have crossed mountains and overcame hurdles. We have almost divorced twice and I cannot vouch for tomorrow either because, well nobody knows tomorrow: But one thing I can vouch for is the plan of God for each of us. He says in Jeremiah 29:11,''FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU; PLANS FOR WELFARE AND NOT FOR CALAMITY AND TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE AND A HOPE''.
We marry for better and for worse. You get married promising to love each other in all situations. Today we are on a 'discussion walk'. I will give situations and we analyse what we would have done in these situations.
A) You leave your child in the care of your spouse and travel/go to work. A terrifying call brings you back. Your child is dead! Not because he/she was sick but because he/she encountered an accident that could have been prevented. Would you blame your spouse for the demise of your child?
B) Your spouse gets frustrated with you and slap you continuously for more than twenty times. You don't react. Your spouse goes on social media to say your marriage is over yet comes back begging. Would you forgive?
C) Your spouse allows a sibling who is younger than you to come spend some few weeks with you. You have no house help and you have a baby under 1. Yet you serve both spouse and sibling like a slave and spouse allows sibling to sleep in leave unwashed dishes for you. Spouse doesn't even show gratitude. Would you complain?
D) Spouse goes about telling everyone how he/she takes care of you financially and actually boast that without him/her you are nothing. Would you refuse anymore help or assistance?
E) You and your spouse gets separated(not marriage separation) because you both mutually agreed to travel to different countries/cities. Your work demanded this. You have an argument on phone about missing calls. You blurt out divorce. Spouse doesn't call you again and ignore your calls for more than four months. One day after this, he/she calls you because he/she needs money. Would you help?
F) You have taken student loans in your name for boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse to further education. You aren't done paying off and you hear that boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse has taken another loan(a bigger amount) in his/ her name and given to another person of opposite sex without informing you.
I started a story from 2nd February publishing ''THERE'S ALWAYS A MOMENT''. I mentioned meeting a beautiful man who became an adviser, friend, boyfriend and platonic friend again for three years. Well that man is my husband as I type this. He still is my adviser and friend. In fact if you go through the archived posts of this blog, you will see the story about our wedding. It has not all been rosy, we have crossed mountains and overcame hurdles. We have almost divorced twice and I cannot vouch for tomorrow either because, well nobody knows tomorrow: But one thing I can vouch for is the plan of God for each of us. He says in Jeremiah 29:11,''FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU; PLANS FOR WELFARE AND NOT FOR CALAMITY AND TO GIVE YOU A FUTURE AND A HOPE''.
We marry for better and for worse. You get married promising to love each other in all situations. Today we are on a 'discussion walk'. I will give situations and we analyse what we would have done in these situations.
A) You leave your child in the care of your spouse and travel/go to work. A terrifying call brings you back. Your child is dead! Not because he/she was sick but because he/she encountered an accident that could have been prevented. Would you blame your spouse for the demise of your child?
B) Your spouse gets frustrated with you and slap you continuously for more than twenty times. You don't react. Your spouse goes on social media to say your marriage is over yet comes back begging. Would you forgive?
C) Your spouse allows a sibling who is younger than you to come spend some few weeks with you. You have no house help and you have a baby under 1. Yet you serve both spouse and sibling like a slave and spouse allows sibling to sleep in leave unwashed dishes for you. Spouse doesn't even show gratitude. Would you complain?
D) Spouse goes about telling everyone how he/she takes care of you financially and actually boast that without him/her you are nothing. Would you refuse anymore help or assistance?
E) You and your spouse gets separated(not marriage separation) because you both mutually agreed to travel to different countries/cities. Your work demanded this. You have an argument on phone about missing calls. You blurt out divorce. Spouse doesn't call you again and ignore your calls for more than four months. One day after this, he/she calls you because he/she needs money. Would you help?
F) You have taken student loans in your name for boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse to further education. You aren't done paying off and you hear that boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse has taken another loan(a bigger amount) in his/ her name and given to another person of opposite sex without informing you.
Reason for donating this amount? They had fallen in-love with each other. Would you trust again?
As a mortal, You may forget your vows. Sometimes we think the worse is only when our spouse cannot walk again or is disfigured or looses a job. What about when they betray us, or hurt us deeply? Can we be bold to say because I want to make it to heaven, Because Jesus already payed for those sins, Because God already forgave me my sins... I am letting go all the pain and look to Him... And fulfill my for better or worse...
Don't get me wrong, some situations like domestic and physical abuse are not to be pampered. Report immediately and get help.
Be determined to walk through the storm together. Choices you make in difficult times shapes the future of your marriage. One wrong choice will lead you to a path of regret. Leave bitterness out of your marriage, choose to trust God even when you don't understand what is happening. Use your pain to help others find healing.
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Couples for Christ(CFC)
This week's challenge is open: Make a conscious effort to say/do one nice thing everyday for your spouse through the next seven days.
The Mawuli International Mission Assignment for Christ
Ephesians 5:21–25:
submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head
of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should
submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Written by Rev Mrs Caroline Dzifa Fumey
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