Welcome Dear Readers,
Have you ever heard someone say ,"I am still with you, ain't I?" "If i didn't love you, I would not be with you". Or better still, "No one marries his or her enemy."
Well all these statements can be true but when it becomes an anthem, then whoever is singing it, is in fact missing something.
Making a relationship work takes effort. Effort I describe as conscious. You decide with your heart, mind and energy,physical energy to work your relationship towards success. If you are married,with kids, it as well become double Effort.
Years back, I would constantly nag my husband of not loving me because he paid more attention to people outside our home. His favorite line in response to me was, "Did I marry them? Am I not with you?" You may be laughing now thinking this man... But this statement would pierce my heart to the core. I would cry my eyes out and sometimes even refuse to eat.
I recently learnt to pray rather than to worry or better still tell myself emphatically that its my marriage and I decide who he loves. Some of you may say I am making it seem so easy, My dear the truth is it may be a challenge, but putting effort in prayer works. Putting effort in being patience rather than being called a nag works. Making that extra effort to turn a blind eye to that attitude that gets you angry, works. Effort to control the words that come out of your mouth to your spouse, Effort to look good, Effort to take care of your health(Oh YES! my husband used to tell me my Health is my responsibility and i would cry about that too), Effort to raise those Godly world-changing children...
Reminding yourself constantly of the positives in your relationship will make the effort a lot more easy. Beginning a daily habit of being optimistic about your marriage or relationship doesn't have to look a particular way, no matter your approach, God will reveal things to us in a powerful way when we pray and ask him for strength and guidance. Marriage or relationship is God's institution or making or creation; therefore he has the manual to make it work perfectly. Go to him and ask for guidance when you are getting overwhelmed or surprised or agitated or frustrated or tired.
Make a genuine commitment to your partner. Set targets for your marriage or relationship and don't miss twice meeting those targets.
Have you ever heard someone say ,"I am still with you, ain't I?" "If i didn't love you, I would not be with you". Or better still, "No one marries his or her enemy."
Well all these statements can be true but when it becomes an anthem, then whoever is singing it, is in fact missing something.
Making a relationship work takes effort. Effort I describe as conscious. You decide with your heart, mind and energy,physical energy to work your relationship towards success. If you are married,with kids, it as well become double Effort.
Years back, I would constantly nag my husband of not loving me because he paid more attention to people outside our home. His favorite line in response to me was, "Did I marry them? Am I not with you?" You may be laughing now thinking this man... But this statement would pierce my heart to the core. I would cry my eyes out and sometimes even refuse to eat.
I recently learnt to pray rather than to worry or better still tell myself emphatically that its my marriage and I decide who he loves. Some of you may say I am making it seem so easy, My dear the truth is it may be a challenge, but putting effort in prayer works. Putting effort in being patience rather than being called a nag works. Making that extra effort to turn a blind eye to that attitude that gets you angry, works. Effort to control the words that come out of your mouth to your spouse, Effort to look good, Effort to take care of your health(Oh YES! my husband used to tell me my Health is my responsibility and i would cry about that too), Effort to raise those Godly world-changing children...
Reminding yourself constantly of the positives in your relationship will make the effort a lot more easy. Beginning a daily habit of being optimistic about your marriage or relationship doesn't have to look a particular way, no matter your approach, God will reveal things to us in a powerful way when we pray and ask him for strength and guidance. Marriage or relationship is God's institution or making or creation; therefore he has the manual to make it work perfectly. Go to him and ask for guidance when you are getting overwhelmed or surprised or agitated or frustrated or tired.
Make a genuine commitment to your partner. Set targets for your marriage or relationship and don't miss twice meeting those targets.
Hebrews 12:1
Therefore, since we are surrounded by
such a great cloud of witnesses,
let us throw off everything that hinders
and the sin that so easily entangles.
And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us
Last week was super fun getting feedback from you on how you have read the previous posts. Some took the kissing marathon challenge seriously. A couple suggested we actually mention names of participants in the weekly challenge. We are still considering how amazing we can make it since there are so many privacy policies now. That is why we encourage us all to be part of CFC(Couples For Christ) community on Facebook so we can share our experiences on that appropriate platform.
Still celebrating Valentine this week. Our weekly challenge: THE BIG LIE-IN. This week we are picking a favorite book, novel, poem and read to our spouse as they relax in bed or on couch or however comfortable lying position they are in.
The hashtag is still on.. Spread the word... #fixit
Lets save that marriage.
BY REV. MRS CAROLINE DZIFA FUMEY
Amen!This is very helpful
ReplyDeleteI am reading, Intresting.
ReplyDeleteKeep on, It changes situations. God bless you.
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