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Smile for me...''I want to be your weakness''

Buenos Dias a todo,

Today's title is just random. Forgive me if it sounds like a poem but as I write this I am listening to this song which I love so much and that's the title. A heads up to my dear readers;its purely west African music with what we call ''PIDGIN ENGLISH''. It may be a little difficult for some to understand. I am posting the link here for us all to enjoy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-SHnrY8ifc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrwvr5DlEUM

So its Valentine's day tomorrow!!!
I don't want to sound so negative but I think this is the first valentine I am spending and I have so much joy within me about my marriage and my husband.
I remember the numerous times I gave my husband gifts and he didn't even wear them or use them. And I remember expecting some particular gifts and I either got none or something else. Huh! What stress we put ourselves through! Every time I got disappointed by not receiving what I wanted, the more I believed he never loved me. The more I doubted him and got flimsy ideas of the probability of him cheating on me. I became more suspicious of his every move and down and down we went because of how bitter I had grown about him. My favorite complaint line was, ''I can count the number of gifts he has given me since we have been together and I can even list them''. LOL.

Little did we know that we were fighting the wrong battle,That was not even our problem! We heard from a  a man of God who had interest in us, that there was something called love languages. That there were 5 of them and a person may have all but one is always dominant. We did a test, found out that receiving gifts was actually my husband's least. Here I was stunned. It only meant that he appreciated my gifts, but when proving my love to him or making him feel loved, he'd rather wanted my time. Remember he wasn't getting any peaceful time with me because I was too bitter to even have a 5 minute conversation without ending in a quarrel.

I am not saying we should not give gifts to our spouses, I am just saying we should concentrate on the things that they will really appreciate. Some peoples love language is receiving gifts, they will appreciate even a 'lollipop' as a gift. Take time to figure out what your spouses love language is and give him/her that this Valentine.

HAPPY VALENTINES IN ADVANCE TO US ALL.

Find out more about love languages here.
https://www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-today/speaking-your-wifes-love-language/#



                                                   Romans 12:12: 
                      "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."
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Written by Rev Mrs Caroline Dzifa Amaglo.


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